Translator: Ricardo García Pérez

The more we crave happiness, the less happy we are. This is what is known in philosophy as the "paradox of happiness." The same happens with love, whose predominant vision, which we can call "romantic", defends that the ultimate goal is to achieve perpetual happiness: a "happily ever after" that imposes itself as a model of life and makes us paradoxically unhappy.

"Sad love" and tragic arises when we think that love is synonymous with happiness, and is synonymous with immediate well-being. The love that Jenkins defends goes much further, because it breaks the traditional game board and establishes other coordinates. Against the romantic vision, Jenkins proposes a "eudaimonic" or "good-spirited" love. That is, we should not look for our better half somewhere in the world, but generate relationships that make us better; Surround ourselves, in short, with good spirits that contribute to personal flourishing and the development of our capacities.

To the philosophical rigor of this work Jenkins adds her own experience as a polyamorous woman, enriching the reflection on love outside the frameworks of monogamy and heterosexuality imposed by the traditional family.