The problems that arise for parents when their adult children move away usually helps poor cope with the "logic" of common sense. Would not it be embarrassing to admit that we are not up to something socially so obvious? However, many people sink into severe depression or deny altogether the reality of the problem, thus closing the prospects of a positive redefinition of one's life. Verena Kast, from his psychotherapeutic experience teaches us that in the process of detachment of children is a uniquely human experience: the psychic pain of loss. We must take seriously this deep affection, and cross disturbing and enigmatic as a duel consciously assumed as a real job. Only then the emptiness and loneliness can become an open door to freedom to reconnect with yourself and make new projects. The important suggestions and reflections of the author help you perform step by step process of separation and to begin a search psych enriching one's own identity and new ways of life.