Many people do not get to live their sexuality in congruence with their identity due to having suffered sexual trauma, relationship trauma and love trauma. They confuse their identity with identification with others, in many cases with the author of their trauma. His sexuality is marked by that identification.

In this work, the author, endorsed by an experience of twenty-five years as a therapist, states that there are many more sexual traumas than we think, since sexual abuse often takes place within the family itself. Children who suffer from them do not talk about those experiences. They develop feelings such as anger, shame, (false) pride, and disgust in an exaggerated way. Many of these victims of abuse end up becoming, in turn, abusers of their own children, whom they go through the same trauma that they carry.

Franz Ruppert speaks in this book about concepts such as sexuality, psyche, love, identity, society and psychotrauma, in an entertaining and understandable style for the reader. In the last chapter, addressed to mental health specialists, he presents his proposal for treating sexual trauma, which he calls "identity-based psychotrauma therapy." This therapy is based on the therapeutic practice of the constellations and has the objective of breaking the chain of sexual traumas that are experienced in many families.