This text is born of deep respect for a generation of parents trying to develop the parental role from the inside out, starting with his own thoughts, feelings and values​​, because there is no cultural consensus and with the facts to fall back, a generation at the same time is to create a peer relationship partner that takes into account both the needs of each as the demands of common life.

Jesper Juul shows that, for the benefit of all, we define ourselves and delimitarnos, and shows us how to do it without offending or hurting others, and we must learn to do this with confidence, knowing they offer our children valid models of behavior. The work does not address the need to impose limits on their children, but is intended to explain how important it is to say no, because we say yes to ourselves.